Kindness Scrolling

Kindness Scrolling makes the first hello easier

Less awkwardness. More hello.

Loneliness rarely announces itself. Somebody goes quiet, the gap grows, and the longer it runs the more awkward it feels to be the one who breaks it. Kindness Scrolling is our answer to that: small, respectful ways to reach back.

It does not label anybody lonely and it does not ask them to explain their silence. It just makes the first message easy to send.

Five useful lines

Long time no speak. You are out of sight, but not out of mind. No need for a big reply, I just wanted to say hello.

You popped into my head today. How have things been for you lately?

Fancy a cuppa, a short walk or a ten-minute call sometime? Completely fine if now is not a good time.

Would you rather chat, do something, or just swap daft pictures for a bit?

I am here to listen. You do not have to explain or fix anything.

No phrase is perfect in every situation. These reduce pressure by avoiding diagnosis, blame, forced disclosure and repeated pursuit.

A simple member guide

Describe the gap. Do not label the person.
Ask when you can genuinely listen.
Accept that they may not want to talk, or may not want to talk to you.
Listen before advising.
Keep pace and choice with the recipient.
Ask permission before sharing names, words, photos or stories.
Do not promise outcomes or replace professional help.
Respect your own boundaries too.

Request the one-page reconnection card

Worth a listen

Three episodes of the Mr Purple podcast on exactly this.

Take this connection thing seriously

Marg Lange, Ep 42

Connection treated as something you actually work at, rather than something that just happens.

Finding people you can work and connect with

Kayla Malss, Ep 99

On finding your people, and why the right room matters more than the biggest one.

Mental health, reframed

Vanja Simic, Ep 131

Challenging the labels we inherit, which is the same argument this campaign is built on.

The whole show is on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and YouTube.

What BGA is not

BGA is a peer community, not a counselling, crisis or clinical service.

We do not diagnose, rescue or pressure people. We listen before advising, ask permission before sharing stories and respect the other person's pace.

If somebody appears to be in immediate danger in Australia, call Triple Zero on 000. Lifeline is available 24 hours a day on 13 11 14.